My wife don't want anal sex. Can you give me some arguments. Thanks

 

Tell her to at least try it once, that's fair enough to ask, a lot of people are enjoying anal sex and it's something you, her partner really wants to try. Because you love her and want to be faithful to her, she is the only one with whom you can share this sexual experience with. It would be unfair for her to deny you the opportunity of trying this and perhaps she may even enjoy it herself. The important thing is really to do it right and set the mood...perhaps take her out for a little drink or at home and make her feel really comfortable, lots of pussy and anal foreplay and lube...but perhaps you already know all that!
Anyway, good luck...play her emotional strings like a violin and you're there...women melt for the emotional stuff.....hehehe :twisted:

 

Unless she sees right through the manipulative BS (highly likely, by the way). Emotional blackmail seldom works.

 

I'd say that if she doesn't wanna, she doesn't wanna. Leave it at that.

 

No I don't agree.....I would say that you prefer the more virile, dominant approach....am I wrong?

 

Why should he give up and be frustrated? As his partner she should try to accommodate his sexual needs to a certain extent and at least try it...that's all...

 

Sorry Roox but I think you have it all wrong. Trying to guilt her into it or maniplate her or otherwise convince her when she's obviously against it will do nothing but sabotage their relationship. She'll become VERY resentful and it will take a lot of time to heal that wound. It's fine to ask but if your partner says no, then the answer is no. She may think it's *dirty*, she may have already tried it and it hurt, or she may know it's just not her thing. Whatever her reason, it should stand. One person's pleasure at the expense of another is just wrong. Sorry if that sounds all preachy.

 

Personally I think that you should find out why she doesn't want to do anal and then address those issues. Perhaps there is some way to get around what she doesn't like the idea of, or to convince her that way.

Do not push her to do something she doesn't want to do.

 

But even as a collared property, i have "hard limits" that are honored. Even mid-scene, i have safewords that i can use to slow or completely stop all activity. Master is far too mature to think of using guilt and emotional blackmail to get what he wants.

 

Just start to finger her ass as you fuck her and see if she likes it - go very very lightly at first and just judge the reaction

 

As far as i know, there are no documented cases of any premature deaths from a lack of anal sex.

But using manipulation and guilt in the sexual arena can kill a woman's sexual desire pretty quickly.

 

What he said. Try and make it a part of your sexplay. Be very careful, don't just push your finger in. Find a way to make her completely relaxed and make her trust you.

After a bath or good shower when youj eat her pussy try and lick her anus as well. If she's not convinced by this devine feeling tell her that she's got more nerve ending in her anus than in het vagina.

Good luck an good play. I totally love anal sex!

 

Another tip:
Why don't you let her return the favour? After you've given her this great orgasm just by licking her sweet pussy and tiny ass. Let her stick a finger in you ass while she's giving you the best blowjob she's ever given you. Just massage the prostate a little. I know by experience you'll have an orgasm you've never had before. You'll cum like when you were 18!

When you both accept eachothers pleasure-play around that little hole down there you'll create mutual trust and then she might accept your mighty hard loveknot inside her tiny and tight little bumhole! (i've always wanted to say bumhole )

 

I agree with that totally I've always told my girlfriend that I ever expected anal sex with her, she'd have to fuck me in the ass first with a dildo :/... which I'm not really prepared for just yet XD... well maybe the finger test is better first but the concepts there somewhere XD

 

What to do..

Im a girl and have been in your wife's situation. She has to be into the idea a little bit, otherwise it will NEVER work, that i can promise. If she is up for the idea but is just scared, start out by just playing with her butt a little bit, just one finger maybe a little bit, if she freaks out, you have to stop, you will hurt her if you dont. If she is ok with it keep progressing, maybe suggest watching a porn with anal stuff in it. most people will say this is a bad idea but it isnt really, it might get her into the mood, show her that it will be ok. Its a personal thing, she will like it or she wont, wish you the best.

 

My wife is coming around to the idea of trying it but is still a little scared.i know we have to take it slowly and use plenty of lube.Is KY the best to use or is there a better one for trying anal.
Thanks in advance

 

Has she told you why?

First time anal sex can be very painful if not done properly. You have to go slow, very slow, and use lots of lube. Let her take it in at her own speed. Don't expect to pound her for awhile. You have to get her used to it, and to resist the normal muscular reaction to expel the object. I highly recommend that you do some research on the subject, because if its not done properly, injury....sometimes requiring surgery could result. In time, it can be a very pleasurable experience for her. Again, it will take a lot of time.

Normally, if another person doesn't want to try anything, I won't push it. The seed has been planted.

If you want to know what its like, purchase an 8 inch dildo and stick it up yours. I'm not being mean when I say that, but trying to give you an idea of what it might be like for her for the first time.

 

Trust, many have the view that anal is dirty or painful. Yes it can be both if not done right. But if done right can be a very pleasurable experience for both.

1st she's got to trust that you are not going to hurt her. The anus is a very sensitive spot, but for anal to be really good and pleasurable she's got to be relaxed and trust you. Don't be in a hurry, make it a project over time. Get some good lube ( abollene? is good for anal as is Millenium ID lube, I like Millenium cause it is a silicone based lube and does not get sticky and does not stain) Make sure you use lots of lube.

Introduce her to anal play and touch gently over time. For example when you are making out diddling her puss quietly slip your finger down to the opening of her ass, don't go in just some pressure and gentle massage, if you were to go in her likely reaction would be to retract (tighten up), she must be relaxed. Gentle caresses of her anus will add to her pleasure and build up trust. Be patient and tune in to her reactions, experiment by just adding a little pressure of your fingers on her anus, vary it but don't penetrate just yet. Another scenario is have her lay on top of you and rub her puss on your cock, or ride your cock, as she's doing so use your hands to caress her anus somewhat the same as what I just described, if your were to penetrate at this point , don't go to far in just slip a finger in slightly, perhaps only the tip of your finger, let her get used to the sensation. If she is enjoying the experience you will notice her loosen up and accept more of your finger, but I recommend Just working on her sphincter at first, if you go to far it may hurt and turn her off. She has to get used to the sensations. In fact I find this more enjoyable than the actual act of my cock penetrating as my fingers have more sensitivity to touch.

As I said this is a project for both of you over time, as her trust in you increases she will likely find the experience of anal play more and more pleasurable, another thing to remember or consider is once you have penetrated her completely with your finger go slow let her get used to this strange object up her rectum, don't be in a hurry to thrust it in and out until she's very comfortable, my gal likes for me to just insert my finger or cock slowly as she moves on it, that way she is in control of how it feels. Once she becomes comfortable with it then and her sphincter has loosened up I can begin to do the thrusting, we both have experienced some very powerful and explosive orgasms this way.

If you truly care about your gal and want this to be good for both of you, try this so you will know what she is going to experience and what I mean about trust. Try sitting on a dildo yourself, see for yourself what fast penetration feels like, it'll hurt unless you go slow and get used to this object up your butt. You'll discover having that knowledge that she has legit fears unless it is done right.

Now, if you really want to experiance a powerful cum have your gal massage your Male G-Spot. Trust me it is an experience. Somebody else mentioned this in this thread. Have her insert a finger or 2 into your butt and stroke your cock, she will massage your prostrate and milk you like you have never been milked before. I know some of you will say that's gay, but why? It's far from that between two lovers wanting to have it all. Trust me you will enjoy it.

Hope you find this helpful?

 

I am soooo down with the last post.

 

Sorry - genuine question - does that mean you like it or hate it?